21 best lubes for sex and masturbation that won't upset the pH-balance of your vagina, according to an expert
Lube is a game-changer when it comes to sex and masturbation, hence why “where to buy lube” is a hugely popular Google search. In 2023, it's common knowledge that women are taking their sexual pleasure into their own hands – and introducing personal lubricant into their sexual wellness routines is a big part of that. For a multitude of reasons.
Whether you’re looking for condom-safe lube, the best lube for sensitive skin, the best water-based lube or organic lube, there’s no better time than right now to experiment. But not all lubes are created equal. If your bedside table lube collection is currently population zero, our guide to the best lube should help to settle on the best lube for you. Here’s everything you need to know, plus GLAMOUR’s edit of the best lubricants that money can buy. Tried and tested, of course…
Why is it good to use lube during sex? | What are the different types of lube? | What type of lube lasts the longest? | Can you use lube with condoms? | Does lube give you thrush? | Are tingling lubes worth it? | Our full reviews.
In a rush? Best lube 2023 at a glance:
- Best lubricant overall: LELO Personal Moisturising Lubricant, £12.90, Sephora
- Best water based lubricant: Slip N' Slide Silky Water-Based Lubricant, £9.99, Bondara
- Best oil-based lubricant: My Viv Oil-Based Lubricant, £10, Beauty Bay
- Best organic lubricant: Maude Shine Lube 4 oz., £16, Beauty Bay
- Best silicone lubricant: Pjur Original Silicone Lube, £19.99, Lovehoney
Why is it good to use lube during sex?
ICYMI, the best lubes can help to avoid injury and discomfort, as well as tearing (ouch). There's a plethora of reasons why you might not get as wet as you'd like on occasion – including reduced estrogen levels and stress – but the best lubes are here to banish the issue and heighten intimacy levels with your partner – or yourself – immeasurably. Consider orgasms from anal sex, penetrative sex your best vibrator a whole lot more enjoyable. (Though avoid silicone-based lubricants for encounters of the latter kind, as they can sometimes react with silicone sex toys).
Lubricants can also reduce the incidence of cystitis and UTIs. Having vigorous sex can cause the bladder to become inflamed, promoting infection.
What are the different types of lube? What lube lasts the longest?
Lube comes in a sweetshop of flavours (or none), but follow your eye before your mouth. First, look for a 'pH balanced' label on the bottle. Without this, you risk disrupting the natural bacteria in your vagina, which is like WhatsApping thrush and asking it to join. Then, pick your blend.
- Good for? Being mild, and safe to use with all sex toys and contraceptives. It's most like your natural wetness.
- Bad for? Drying out mid-use due to air exposure or the water in it being absorbed (safely) by your body. Reapply or reactivate with water.
- Good for? Stamina. Thicker than water-based, it lasts longer, so you enjoy sex for longer. It’s also the least messy.
- Bad for? Condoms. Oil-based is NOT compatible with latex condoms. Avoid oil-based substances like Vaseline and baby oil (not vagina-friendly).
- Good for? Use in water and lasting ages. A little goes a long way. It’s the slippiest.
- Bad for? Your shower floor during sex, which turns you into Bambi on ice. May also stain bed sheets, and can damage silicone sex toys, leaving them feeling tacky.
Can you use lube with condoms?
One simple rule here: latex condoms can't handle oil-based lubricants. Non-latex condoms (i.e. Durex Latex Free) are suitable with all types of lubricant, so if your chosen method of contraception is condoms, we'd recommend going latex-free.
Can lube give you thrush?
On one hand, lube is great for giving the dreaded thrush the boot. The friction during quickies or rough sex encourages heat and small grazes to the walls of the vagina. These encourage bacterial growth, leading to thrush. Cut friction and you stop micro-tears, leaving a happier V-zone.
However, artificial ingredients in some lubes were not built with crotch sanity in mind. Your vagina and clitoris are highly absorbent, so parabens, petroleum-based ingredients (found in petroleum jelly), glycerin and glucose can promote yeast infections and leave your vagina feeling itchy, sore and uncomfortable. If you're prone to sensitivity, give dyes a wide berth too, and look for natural flavourings, not artificial ones (often full of thrush-spawning sugars like glycerine or glycol).
Are tingling lubes good?
Some people love them, others hate them, but to be honest, we wouldn't recommend them. Namely because they can include substances never designed for genitals. Always try a small amount first and if you experience burning or itching, wash it off immediately.
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